There’s something about doing new things and breaking out of a rut that opens you up to scrutiny and threatens to derail your confidence. So many people are deathly afraid of one word: failure. It’s almost paralyzing to even think about. Who wants to put themselves out there only to fail?
But I have a couple of questions. Who promised you that every idea or outcome would be a slam dunk? Where is it written that you get to knock it out of the park every single time? If you find that in a contract, forward it to me so I can collect on my funds.
One thing you can believe is that if you never try, you damn sure will fail. And you can take that to the bank.
Here are some examples that I hear the most often centered around failure:
- I want to move to another city but I’m afraid that I’ll fail and have to move back home.
- I’m afraid to start this business because people will think I’m a loser if it doesn’t succeed.
- I don’t want to go back to school because I don’t know if I have what it takes.
My response to you…So what?
This life isn’t a dress rehearsal folks. It’s the “Real Deal Holyfield”. You don’t get to leave this earth and come back and do it all over again the way you had hoped.
Truth moment: My former business consisted of producing beautiful journals and stationery which is something I’ve always been completely obsessed with. People loved them and I even got them into a local store in Tempe. SCORE, right? Wrong! After spending thousands on the production of them… they tanked. I still to this day have some of them in sitting boxes in my garage. Journal, anyone?
I must’ve been a few years ahead of the curve because now they are all the rage and everyone is selling journals. Seriously? Que sera, sera. I tell this story because it took me years to get back on the proverbial bus of starting another business.
My confidence and bank account went down the toilet and into the sewer system. I had to find them both (it was funky), make a plan and now I’m back at it. But I count that failure as a win.
Why would I count failure as a win? Because now I know that starting up lean and focusing on providing services instead of making products is best for me at the moment. I already have a list of digital products in mind that I will sell after I’ve tested the market but I’ve been 10x smarter about the way I spend money this time around.There's always a lesson if you pay attention. Click To Tweet
My point is that failure is inevitable when you are trying at anything. If you’re not trying something that makes you nervous and a little scared, you’re not really living. But just like anything else, those feelings of anxiousness and doubt don’t last always. Once you get in there and start making things happen, they’ll slowly begin to subside.
If it makes you feel any better, no one is really thinking about you anyway. I’m sorry you had to hear it from me but we’re too caught up in our own “stuff” to keep up with your wins vs. losses. We’re all selfish that way and that works for me.
Start today by making small steps toward your goal and take action. In 2016, let’s stop focusing on failure and use that energy to channel it into being a success.
What are you doing this year that’s making you a little nervous? It could be a class, activity or side hustle. Comment below.
**Update: This post was featured on Huffington Post. Check it out here.